It’s the New Year. Everyone around you, on all social media platforms are buzzing about selling you the latest planner, goal setting tool, and motivational book to get you ready to be the “Most Successful” in the coming year.
Statistics say that 57% of us who set goals, will have crashed and burned and abandoned our ideas and goals by the end of January. I believe that you or I do not intentionally set a goal with a plan to be mediocre.
Why aren’t these tools working? The planner we bought was so simple, and cute! Did you see the amazing new sticky notes that coordinate with the set that I bought and how nicely they all look together sitting on my desk?!
I remember a few year ago I had set up a goal to have a certain stock pile of cash saved in my bank account. I set my goal in mid December for the following December and I was off to the races. I had just started in Real Estate and business was going really well. I worked really, really hard and I saw the money start to come in. This excited me! I was watching my bank account become larger than I had before. Then, it happened. Perhaps you could say I became lazy, and over confident that the business would roll in like it always had and I sat back on the most important activity that I should have at the time. Lead generation.
My spending habits didn’t change. My way of life didn’t change. My bank account began to deplete. I became frustrated and did my best to revamp and get the momentum going again and it took double time to get my results back to where it was before.
My problem could have been I was focused on the “doing” rather than the “being”. See, when we seek out and write a goal down for ourselves, it will surely demand a different version of us. It will require later nights, earlier mornings, a different way of thinking and plenty of stretch marks. Perseverance, the grit, the extra cup of coffee and commitment. It will call us out of our comfort zone and will probably be a bit painful. Are you writing these expectations down? Do you have others in your life aware of your goals and plans for the year? If you aren’t freaking out by now, then you should teach a course on fear and growth. It is part of the process. It is important to note that the difference between success and failure is whether or not we take action with the pain or decide to park there.
If childbirth taught me anything, what I have learned is, the faster I can learn to manage the pain, the fear goes away. The ending is a pretty big blessing, too.
Consider the kind of person that needs to show up holding the completed goal at the end of the term. What will he/she look like? How does he/she behave on a day to day basis? How will this person respond to stress? Or respond to days where they just don’t feel like doing it anymore?
There is a massive trend right now on a book called “One Word”. It’s a book I have read through a couple of times and learned I have been doing this practice every year for the past 2-3 years. The concept explains how to simplify your life and business by focusing on just one word for the entire year. The simplicity of choosing one word makes it a catalyst for life change. through a series of questions you discover a word that you will focus on for the next 12 months. As you keep this word in front of you, it will demand that you show up to life each day, differently. Perhaps it’s changing your routine, perhaps it building up a different self-talk that is different than today, maybe it’s requiring you to practice gratitude a bit more.
Setting a New Year’s resolution will be far more successful if we think about it as an intention, a way of being, rather than a task list. Setting an intention for 2018 is as simple as finding our ‘word’ and plastering it all over our lives and being intentional with our activities.
A question that I have found helpful to ask myself different scenarios, specifically ones that frustrate me is, “how would the best version of me respond to this situation right now?”.
As we arrive into a new year, symbolizing a new start, a rebirth, let us reflect on the cherished memories and the lessons of the path before us, and LOOK AHEAD with hope and direction that carries us into the next playing field. May the beginning of 2018 be the full of faith and hope that yes, you can carry on.